Do You Recognize Yourself


In life as you mature, change, grow, and evolve you become unrecognizable to some of the people around you.

They no longer see in you who you used to be and they become somewhat uncomfortable—even seem to dislike the new and improved you.

It’s natural for the people who know you to be leery and skeptical of your growth, and to find the “new you” hard to accept. Hard to believe.  And rightly so, because what once was, no longer is.

We’re all creatures of habit—we want things to stay the same. But change is inevitable and there’s always a price to pay during our transformation. Values change, priorities shift, and relationships slip, stumble, or fall while new ones are formed.

The people who are unable or unwilling to recognize who you’ve become and who you’re becoming are the very same people who stunt your growth. If your growth gets stunted, you tend to stand in the same old spot year after year.

How long can you stand in your same old spot?

So here’s the thing: becoming unrecognizable to the people around us is a good thing. It means we’re growing and transitioning into who we’re meant to be. It’s not our problem if the people around us choose NOT to recognize our growth or our worth, and want to stay complacent in who we used to be.

As long as you recognize yourself, no other recognition matters.

Stay true to you.

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And the Winners are…

The virtual publicity tour for my novel Sifting Through Mud was a success. Hooray!!!

I’d like to thank Pump up Your Book tour company who did all the coordination, promotion, and the organization of the giveaway (also handled all the annoying emails I sent). :)

To any authors looking for a touring host, I highly recommend you consider Pump up Your Book as a touring option. They’re a bit pricey, but they also offer deep discounts to fit your promotional budgets. (Discounts aren’t publicized so you’ll have to inquire about them to receive them.)

Also, I’d like to thank the many bloggers, fellow writers, friends, book buyers, readers, and social media players who participated in spreading the word and supporting my debut novel. Each and every one of you made this book tour a success. I’m extremely humbled by all your support.

Now that the tour is over (ended last Friday on Halloween), it’s time to share with you the winners of the Giveaway.

With 134 total giveaway entries (way more than I was expecting), the winners are:

1st place winner:  Wendy H.  ($25 Amazon Gift Card)

2nd place winner:  Sue A.  (Free Sifting Through Mud ebook)

My deepest gratitude to everyone who participated.

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(NOTE:  Winners were selected randomly by Rafflecopter via Pump up Your Book tours. Winners were contacted yesterday, Nov. 3, by the touring company and have 48 hours to claim their prize.)

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Book Spotlight: The New Mrs. Collins

I’ve recently crossed paths with fellow writer and new friend, Quanie Miller, and I’m very blessed and thankful our paths have crossed. Quanie is a very talented and versatile writer. Her versatility of writing spans multiple genres with her debut release of a romantic comedy It Ain’t Easy Being Jazzy, and now with her southern paranormal novel The New Mrs. Collins.

Please join me for a spotlight on her new release,The New Mrs. Collins, then go pick up a copy to enjoy the read. I’ve already bought my copy, and you should too.

Book Information

Title: The New Mrs. Collins
Author: Quanie Miller
Genre: Southern Paranormal
Release Date: October 13, 2014


Buy the Book

Amazon
Amazon UK
Smashwords

 

Book Summary

In the small town of Carolville, Louisiana, no one knows that Adira Collins inherited mystic powers from her great grandmother. All they know is that she’s beautiful, poised, graceful, and ruthless—especially when it comes to love. And no one knows that more than Leena Williams, who was all set to marry the man of her dreams until Adira swooped into town and stole the man’s heart.

Being left at the altar is bad enough, but Leena and her ex share custody of their son, so she has to see the new Mrs. Collins on a regular basis.

And it burns every time she does.

But soon, Leena starts to suspect that there is more to Adira Collins than meets the eye. And it’s not because she owns some kinky lingerie shop or allegedly insulted the pastor’s wife—it’s the strange way she can make a door close without touching it, or take one look at something and make it drop dead at her feet.

Leena starts digging for answers and soon discovers that, unlike her public persona, Adira’s true nature is somewhere on the other side of grace. She also learns, a little too late, that some secrets are better left buried.

Connect with Quanie:

Website
Blog
Facebook
Twitter
Goodreads

Email: quanie@quanietalkswriting.com

About the Author
Quanie Miller grew up in New Iberia, Louisiana. She fell in love with reading at an early age and spent most of her time at the Iberia Parish Library discovering authors like R.L. Stine and Christopher Pike (she was often found walking back home from the library with a stack of books that went up to her chin). She holds degrees from Louisiana State University and San Jose State University. She has been the recipient of the James Phelan Literary Award, the Louis King Thore Scholarship, the BEA Student Scriptwriting Award, and the Vicki Hudson Emerging Writing Prize. She is the author of The New Mrs. Collins, a southern paranormal novel, and It Ain’t Easy Being Jazzy, a romantic comedy. She lives in South Carolina with her husband and is currently, as always, working on another novel. To find out more about Quanie and her works in progress visit quanietalkswriting.com.

My Virtual Book Tour: Sifting Through Mud

Wooo Hooo! Today marks the start of my online publicity tour and I’m excited. The tour runs from October 6th through October 31st. Finally, after a couple of false starts with previous book tours, I’ve finally found a touring company that delivers on their promise.

Join me and my touring host Pump Up Your Book for a three-week book tour of my debut novel Sifting Through Mud. There will be author interviews, guest posts, book spotlights, excerpts and, of course, prizes and giveaways. And who doesn’t like prizes and giveaways?

Click here to access my book tour page and see the tour schedule, giveaways, and more.

Also to wet your whistle, my fellow writer/friend, Quanie Miller, is kicking things off with a book spotlight. Check it out here.

I hope you’ll all join me—virtually—on this three-week tour. Here’s all you have to do:

  • View the tour schedule for locations & dates
  • Pick the tour stops to visit (or visit them all)
  • Enter to win prizes/giveaways
  • Hop along and enjoy the ride (even leave a comment or two if you’d like)

The best part about a virtual tour is you never have to leave home to participate. And, of course, you win stuff. Easy peezy! Don’t forget to tell all your friends.


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See you on the tour!

Follow Fest 2014

I’m happy to be participating in this year’s Follow Fest, which is organized by Melissa Maygrove. The Follow Fest is a one-week event that serves as a networking tool to meet and learn about other writers outside our usual blogging circles.

I missed out on this event last year and was told by several writers how much fun it was, therefore, of course, I’m not gonna miss the fun again. Duhhhh.

 

So let’s get started!

Name:

Demetria Foster Gray

Fiction or nonfiction?

Fiction, yes please! But I also like inspirational nonfiction, and some biographies.

What genres do you write?

Contemporary Women’s Fiction

Are you published?

Yes. My debut novel Sifting Through Mud was released August 2014. It’s a contemporary women’s fiction book. Add it to your Goodreads “Want to Read” list here.

Do you do anything in addition to writing?

I’m a freelance writer and communications consultant with expertise in writing marketing, technical, and corporate communications for various companies.

Tell us a little about yourself.

I’m married with two kids (a pre-teen and a full-blown, drive me bats teenager. They both are the joy of my life).

For the past several years I’ve been on a mind, body, and soul journey to live my truth and walk in my fullest potential. Because of this, I’ve become an inner-growth, self-development, self-empowered, spiritual junkie who gobbles up books by spiritual thought leaders like: Dr. Wayne Dyer, Iyanla Vanzant, Deepak Chopra, T.D. Jakes, Marianne Williamson (and many others).

I’m a Pepsi-holic, chocoholic, shower singer, work-out dabbler, Zumba dancer, and tv-sitcom freak. I love a good laugh, a good book, a good hair day, long walks alone, and the color blue (particular navy blue). Fresh air and silence are my two best friends.

What are you reading right now?

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

Which authors influenced you the most?

Elizabeth Berg made me fall in love with contemporary women’s fiction. I thoroughly enjoy her books (most of them).

Where can people connect with you?

Website:  DemetriaFosterGray.com

Blog:  Shaken But Not Stirred 

Twitter:  @DFosterGray 

Facebook:  DemetriaFosterGray.Author 

Goodreads:  DemetriaFosterGray 

Do you have a newsletter?

Yes. I offer a free eNewsletter called Sexy Savvy Growth It’s a bi-monthly newsletter delivered only six times a year. In it I share personal stories, powerful resources, and awesome life strategies for obtaining sexy, savvy growth—because growth is sexy. The purpose of the newsletter is to give back what’s been given to me—knowledge and growth. Click here to learn more or to subscribe to the newsletter.

In addition, I also have an Author’s Mailing List for those wanting to stay updated on my book releases, announcements, or author events. This is delivered only when there’s news to share. Click here if you’d like to join the mailing list.

Is there anything else you’d like us to know?

Yes. I will be going on a virtual book publicity tour for my novel Sifting Through Mud beginning October 6 through October 31. The tour is being hosted by Pump Up Your Book Tours, and you can view the tour schedule here. Please join me on the tour by visiting any of the tour stops listed on the schedule. Your support is truly appreciated.

 Thanks for your Follow Fest visit today.

Be sure to visit the other writers/bloggers participating in Follow Fest this week. View the list of participants below.