In life as you mature, change, grow, and evolve you become unrecognizable to some of
the people around you. They no longer see in you who you used to be and they become somewhat uncomfortable with—and even seem to dislike—this newly improved version
of you.
It’s natural for the people who know you to be leery and skeptical of your growth, and to find the “new you” hard to accept. Hard to believe. Hard to swallow. And rightly so, because what once was, no longer is. And we all are creatures of habit—we want things to stay the same. But change is inevitable and there’s always a price to pay during your transformation. Relationships shift, stumble, or fall off—and new ones form. Such is life.
Thankfully, I have two mainstay friends who will always recognize me even when I’m unrecognizable. Even when it gets uncomfortable for them and our paths go in different directions. They are the ones whose support I will always cherish. They are the ones who start with you and will finish with you (you know who you are).
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In reality, we have to grow or else stand in the same old spot year after year. How long are you willing to stand in your same old spot?
Below is the video “Are People Around You Holding You Back,” by Marie Forleo that coincides with my blog topic today. I was introduced to Marie Forleo’s brand of wisdom from my literary friend Roxanne Ravenel. Roxanne has featured Marie Forleo’s videos on her Mindful Banter blog and I’ve been a Marie Forleo fan ever since. Take a look-see at what Marie has to say.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=agOtlllcqNo
First, let me just say ” I thought you were ending our friendship.” Glad I am strong in who I am 🙂 LOL!!!!
That is why I have declared this year “The Best Year.” Time for change and trying new things. I do not want to stand in the same old spot. I have gotten rid of a lot of negativite people in all areas of my life. Now I just read and keep my mind focused on positive thoughts and goals I am trying to reach. But I have a couple of BFF’s that I will never get rid of. Just like you they have loved me even when I was unrecognizable.
Sharon, end our friendship? That’s crazy talk! You should have recognized your value to me throughout that third paragraph. Fortunately, we recognize each other during our most unrecognizable times. Crazy bird.
I get frustrated and seriously depressed when standing in the same old spot. That’s why the improved version of me has to take risks, has to walk into my fears, and conquer them. And what I get in return is more courage and more strength to conquer more. I’m glad you’re keeping your mind focused on your goals and trying to move away from your same old spot.
Hey Demetria!
What a great topic. As we change and grow it necessitates a change in our relationships – with people, things, even organizations. And that’s okay. I have learned something from nearly every relationship I’ve had. The good, the bad and the ugly.
I especially like Marie’s advice not to play the victim. Learning the value of not playing the victim and that we allow people to have power in our lives was a big turning point in my life a few years ago. It is a lesson I truly needed to be reminded of now.
Thank you for bringing this video to my attention and for sharing your personal experience.
Roxanne, I totally agree with Marie’s advice of not playing the victim. No one can hold you back unless you let them. Like you, learning this was a turning point for me a few years ago.
I’m also a strong believer that we shouldn’t cling to the idea of “permanence” in life. Everything comes to an end at some point.
Trying to hold on to someone or something that has served its purpose and run its course, does more harm than good. We have to learn to let go. Everything has an expiration date. Thanks, Roxie, for your comments.
That was good. I dig what Maria was spitt’n. Basically, every relationship has it’s season. But like everything in life, there’s always exceptions. I am totally thankful to be one (an exception), with my 2 BFF’s.
…and still awaiting and searching that passion to reveal itself so I can grow from my current state.
Yo D & Shay, bet ya’ll weren’t ready for “spitt’n”, were ya?? Oh me and my coolness.
Okay, Starla, you are way too cool for us to handle. Spitt’n? REALLY? Like you said, everything has a season and I’m hoping your “coolness” season ends soon. Booyah!!
Also I’ve learned in recent years our passion/purpose does not hide from us. Most times it’s standing boldly in front of our face. We’re just too preoccupied with the clutter and confusion in our minds and in our life that we’re unwilling or unable to see it. Our soul reveals our purpose not our life. Be still in your spirit, declutter, and TRULY listen.
See, you made me go all Oprah on you. Sorry I had to get deep, but you should know me by now. Glad you’re a mainstay, my friend.